Is there something in the water?

So in the past several weeks I have heard of several devastating break ups, fights, arguments, and in general situations of boys being idiots..no offense guys..actually yes take offense for your gender. I won't even count my break up as devastating cause let's be honest..he was an ass for the last month of us being together..what did he think, that he could treat me like crap and I would still be head over heels in love with him??

Anyhow this post is NOT meant for me to rant about my dwindling love life- it's about men going bezerk right now? Are all their man periods synced up or is there something in the water that is making them want to end perfectly good relationships? Is it the season..football season is right around the corner..I think I am on to something here..

Any break up is hard, I will not downplay any relationship ending because everyone is different, people fall in love differently, they experience various emotions and develop feelings at  their own pace - but here are some of the most heart breaking breakups I have heard about in the past few weeks..

Number 1: So this girl I work with, let's call her Ally, just broke up with her boyfriend after a year of being together. It was ironic cause Ally, had just told me and another co-worker that her and the BF never fight, people actually questioned it because it happened so infrequently. So they had a fight last week, met up, talked about it and decided to break up..just like that. This is the kicker though, he asked her if they could try and start over as friends?!( I would have slapped him). I think there is an unwritten rule: after you see someone naked more than 10 times..I am pretty sure its hard to be like "hey friend, what's up?" but good try buddy. So here is where this story pulls at the heart strings..so as they are departing after deciding to end things, they said their "I love you"'s, kissed goodbye, and haven't talked since.... WHAT?! No fighting, no sobbing, no screaming, call me crazy but after a year I want an explosive, WWIII, lifetime- movie scene breaking up.. But no Ally pulled herself together and is back at work today, looking fabulous with a smile on her face..cheers to her!!

So story #2 comes from one of my best friends, who again was in a long term relationship, let's call this friend Chloe. Chloe is a brilliant girl, she is unbelievably talented and will do great things in life. However, as smart as this girl is, she fell in love with a sailor..like a sailor  in the Navy..like one who goes under water for SEVERAL months at a time.... Now this was a HUGE part of their relationship because the Navy controlled their relationship more than they did. The Navy dictated where he was stationed, when they could see each other, how often they could talk, etc. None the less they managed to have a successful relationship, more power to them! Well I think Chloe had hit her breaking point, because a few weeks ago I grabbed drinks with her and she casually mentioned that her and her sailor had broken up. I was in shell shock, they were one of those couples that just screams "We're in love!", gross. Anyhow, he had suddenly changed his mind on what he wanted with his future..goals, career, personal..everything. COME ON MAN. After she had sacrificed so much for him and his career?? I love homegirl to death but I  watched her sit in the passenger seat for too long, waiting on him before starting her life. She is now heading off to Grad School in Scotland and I could not be more proud! So where is the tear jerking part of this you ask.. they LITERALLY love each other but cannot be together cause their futures do not align. He wants one thing she wants another..love doesn't conquer all in this situation because they need to do what's best for each of them..I am calling Lifetime..I see a movie plot here...

Story #3 is one for the books..the "man" (I put this in quotes cause he is acting more like a little girl in this situation then he is a man) in this story deserves a swift kick to the head, but I will let you all be the judge of that. So I found out this past weekend that this couple who has been married for a few years now, who has endured the military lifestyle, who had moved across the country and then moved back again..is on the outs because the husband decided hes been faking it for the past 8 years!!! Does he need a swift kick to the head or what people? Apparently he told his wife that he hasn't loved her for the past 8 years that they have been together, he wants a divorce, and she can have the dog that they have together because he doesn't even want to see her to exchange the dog. UGH he is the worst. My whole heart goes out to this girl, she deserves someone better and I applaud her for being as strong as she has been. As the Spice girls say.."Girl Power"

So for all my readers who are in happy healthy relationships - GOOD FOR YOU - but please take extra special care in the type of water your man is drinking...


For all you men out there...if you're going to break up with us..at least do it the right way..

That's all for now...