Some of you may have met your "Prince Charming" or at least married a man who satisfied your Prince Charming craving. For the rest of us out there, you need to give up. Sorry to be blunt. Ladies I realized, after being in the dating pool for the past few months that Prince Charming isn't out there.
Let me explain, every man that we come across from now on will have kids, an ex wife or crazy ex girlfriend, a criminal history, an STD or a number greater than 10 when you ask how many people he has slept with, a restraining order on him or on someone he dated, a crazy mother who cannot let go, or some sort of baggage, just in general. Now, before you freak out and call me psycho..maybe you can live with some of that baggage, maybe you have that as some of your own baggage.
Baggage is not a bad thing..at our age we all have some whether we want to admit it or not. I myself have some as well that I would rather not admit too but none the less it is still there.
Now, I am not saying that past relationships, experiences, etc should discourage you from pursuing a relationship with someone, however it does hinder our image of Prince Charming. This is when the reality slap hit..I may never find my Prince Charming, I may find the love of my life or my soul-mate but the flawless, handsome, some what magical man that I had built up in my mind will most likely be a handsome successful single dad or a intelligent, hard working, divorcee. None of these are terrible or tragically disappointing - it is just reality.So before you start lowering your standards and hanging around playgrounds looking for single dads to hit on. Take a deep breath and realize what I just said, you have known all along but were too afraid to admit. Keep your standards exactly where they are, but from now on don't write off the guy who was in a seven year relationship or the guy who has a little girl that he adores. These people may come in to our lives for just the right reason...
Until next time...
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