The Mr. Perfect Detox..

Detoxing, it's all the rage now. You can do a juice cleanse, a teatox, or simply only drink water for every meal to completely cleanse your system. It's that simple. Well I am jumping onto a detoxing bandwagon as well but it will not require me to change my diet at all. This is a different type of detox..one which that involves boys.

So many of you know I broke up with my ex a few months ago and I was ready to jump back on the dating train. I joined a couple of online sites and asked my friends if they knew any single guys..well this lead to a number of disastrous dates, awful conversations, clingy guys, and awkward scenarios. 

So I am chatting with my friend the other day and she asked me..what are you looking for in a guy and/or a relationship...

Talk about the toughest question she has ever asked me..

I started listing off things like, tall, dark hair, brown eyes, athletic, college degree preferably from a large state school, likes the outdoors preferably water related activities or hiking, has a dog preferably a large dog or one that likes to be active outside, has a  job where preferably he makes good money and there is potential for growth, has friends preferably attractive and funny ones....

And then she stopped me, she goes we aren't building a robot here?!?!..that man doesn't exist and if he does he is either already married to the perfect woman or is gay... I am NOT perfect in anyway so I need to stop looking for Mr. Perfect, I don't even have all the qualifications I am looking for so how can I expect that from the man I want to start dating.

She then gave me the reality slap that I need to look for deeper qualities in my "Mr. Perfect", maybe someone who is a family man, treats me well, is loyal and wouldn't cheat, who knows what a 401K is and potentially already has one started, someone who wants kids someday..

Okay, okay she has a point. So this lead me to my detox idea. Why am I searching for a boyfriend when I barely know what I want in a relationship. I hardly know where I will be in the next two years let alone who I could see myself settling down with. I am under the impression that I need to be dating someone because it feels like everyone my age is getting married. What good is it doing me if I am settling for someone who may not the right fit for me because my Facebook news feed has an engagement announcement every five seconds!!

So this lead me to my Mr. Perfect Detox..I deleted my online accounts, I stopped asking my friends to hook me up with their single guy friends. I am cleansing myself of all the stereotypes and standards I think I am held too. I don't need to search for a boyfriend until I know what I want in a boyfriend..

They say you always find what you are looking for the moment you stop looking...